Yesterday B had 4 'accidents', and only one today, so I guess that's an improvement. They usually happen the minute I go to the toilet or start making dinner, or if I leave him after playing together.
I asked him what he wanted to do today and he said he wanted to go look at trains, so we went to a park near a train line where he was in his element. I'm hoping the good run around has done him the world of good. We'll just have to see what tomorrow brings when it's back to the 3 of us...
Thanks for all the encouragement, it really means a lot.
2010年2月27日土曜日
Advice please
The main reason I posted yesterday was because I need some advice.
And to be honest, the sooner the better.
B has been telling me for months now that another baby would be 'coming to my tummy'.
He has been pointing above my head and saying things like the baby is watching us and is getting ready and will be here soon, and that Mummy, Daddy, A, Nanny and Poppy are happy but that B is not.
He has been mucking up something shocking the last week or so, doing things he normally wouldn't do. I had a little talk to him a few days ago, asking him what was wrong and why was he being so naughty when he knows he's going to get punished. Of course he didn't give me an answer I was expecting, he just said "the baby is here now".
I half-believed him and went about like normal, then the night before last his behaviour started to deteriorate rapidly. It started off when he deliberately did a wee on the carpet in the living room (he is toilet trained and has been for a long time so this doesn't normally happen). He got in trouble for that and then was obnoxious from thereafter. He refused to eat his dinner, wouldn't put his undies or trousers on, was throwing his mini cars around the room, and basically just wouldn't do anything that was asked of him and was in terror mode. At one stage I settled him down with a hug and I thought he was ok, but within 15 minutes or so he started throwing the kitty litter around like confetti, emptied the cat's dry food out of the bowl and was mixing it in with the kitty litter! Crazy things that he has NEVER done before. Obviously something was bothering him.
When S came home he tried to ask him why he was acting like this, to which B answered again in Japanese "the baby is here now and B's not happy".
So that's when I did the pregnancy test, which was positive, as you know.
Yesterday things went from bad to worse.
He did a wee 8 times in places other than the toilet. Six times in the living room, once in the hallway and once in our bedroom on the tatami mat. What has happened to B, toilet trained B?
When I asked him if it was because of the baby he replied in Japanese "赤ちゃんが来て欲しくない". I know this is the reason why he is acting like he is, and he's sending out distress signals as best as a 3 year old can, but I'm at a loss as to what to do. I've been trying to give him lots of extra hugs and kisses lately (which he has been refusing outright), been telling him how much I love him, playing with him as much as I can, cooking together, doing anything I can. Last night I let him sleep with me and S in our bed and he hasn't done anything naughty yet today so maybe that is what he needed...
I don't know what else to do. It's hard enough looking after two kids under normal circumstances, so I really need to nip this in the bud or I don't know how I'm going to survive... Especially if morning sickness turns into anything like the two previous times.
Any advice anyone?
And to be honest, the sooner the better.
B has been telling me for months now that another baby would be 'coming to my tummy'.
He has been pointing above my head and saying things like the baby is watching us and is getting ready and will be here soon, and that Mummy, Daddy, A, Nanny and Poppy are happy but that B is not.
He has been mucking up something shocking the last week or so, doing things he normally wouldn't do. I had a little talk to him a few days ago, asking him what was wrong and why was he being so naughty when he knows he's going to get punished. Of course he didn't give me an answer I was expecting, he just said "the baby is here now".
I half-believed him and went about like normal, then the night before last his behaviour started to deteriorate rapidly. It started off when he deliberately did a wee on the carpet in the living room (he is toilet trained and has been for a long time so this doesn't normally happen). He got in trouble for that and then was obnoxious from thereafter. He refused to eat his dinner, wouldn't put his undies or trousers on, was throwing his mini cars around the room, and basically just wouldn't do anything that was asked of him and was in terror mode. At one stage I settled him down with a hug and I thought he was ok, but within 15 minutes or so he started throwing the kitty litter around like confetti, emptied the cat's dry food out of the bowl and was mixing it in with the kitty litter! Crazy things that he has NEVER done before. Obviously something was bothering him.
When S came home he tried to ask him why he was acting like this, to which B answered again in Japanese "the baby is here now and B's not happy".
So that's when I did the pregnancy test, which was positive, as you know.
Yesterday things went from bad to worse.
He did a wee 8 times in places other than the toilet. Six times in the living room, once in the hallway and once in our bedroom on the tatami mat. What has happened to B, toilet trained B?
When I asked him if it was because of the baby he replied in Japanese "赤ちゃんが来て欲しくない". I know this is the reason why he is acting like he is, and he's sending out distress signals as best as a 3 year old can, but I'm at a loss as to what to do. I've been trying to give him lots of extra hugs and kisses lately (which he has been refusing outright), been telling him how much I love him, playing with him as much as I can, cooking together, doing anything I can. Last night I let him sleep with me and S in our bed and he hasn't done anything naughty yet today so maybe that is what he needed...
I don't know what else to do. It's hard enough looking after two kids under normal circumstances, so I really need to nip this in the bud or I don't know how I'm going to survive... Especially if morning sickness turns into anything like the two previous times.
Any advice anyone?
2010年2月26日金曜日
運命
Ok this post could turn into a long one, so be warned!!
I believe in fate. And karma. Or whatever you might like to call it. I believe that things happen for a reason. Both good things and bad. That we're here to learn. That we're being tested. That you reap what you sow and all that. So where is this post going you might be asking?
Pregnancy.
Can't see the connection yet?
To be honest, even though we would love 4 kids, sometimes just the thought of having to go through pregnancy again is quite offputting. Although some people enjoy this time immensely, I'm afraid I can't say I'm one of them. They say children choose their parents before they are born, so if someone is willing to choose my husband and I then we are willing to give them a chance at life. To have someone become part of our family, someone to share our journey through life with, is enough to make me want to do it again.
But with both B and A the pregnancy started off with morning sickness which lasted all day, every day, for way too long. My weight went down as it does when you're throwing up every day, before finally increasing a few months down the track. So despite the fact B and A were both born 4 days late, my weight gain during pregnancy was 5.8kg for B and 6.2kg for A. They were both over 3240g born btw!
From the moment I conceived I had all the normal pregnancy complaints-no need for any explanations there. Morning sickness lasted for nearly 17 weeks with B and over 20 weeks with A. I was nauseous from morning to night, threw up every day (at least 3 or 4 times a day with A!), was exhausted, could not keep anything down until about 3 or 4 in the afternoon (including water or tea), gagged when brushing my teeth, became aenemic, and basically felt EXTREMELY under the weather. And that's just the first and second trimesters. Don't even get me started on the third trimester!!!!!
So anyway at 20 weeks with A I was finally starting to feel a bit better. Still lethargic, but better. Had a few niggly pains in my side but put it down to being pregnant, as you do. A few weeks later it was Golden Week and my parents, aunt, and uncle were over visiting so we'd taken them on a bit of a trip to see the inlaws and do some sightseeing. But because there were so many of us we'd walked, as opposed to driving, to a famous park about 5 minutes walk from the house and were having a nice old time when it suddenly hit.
Excrutiating pain from my back and around to my sides. I thought I was in labour. I was 24 weeks. I couldn't stand up, was losing consciousness, all the time thinking but if I'm in labour now the baby won't make it!!!!!
The park is actually the ruins of an old castle. There's a shrine at the top and S, my dad, aunty and uncle had gone with my MIL and FIL to the top while my mum, B and I were taking it slowly up the steps. Until I collapsed on the steps that is! My Mum was yelling (in English of course!) "Someone get an ambulance!!!" but we couldn't see anyone around and were starting to panic when a lady from a souvenir shop we hadn't even noticed heard us and thankfully called an ambulance for me.
So a few minutes later I was rushed to hospital and after numerous checks to make sure A was ok (which she was) they said I had kidney stones brought on by pregnancy (made worse because of the morning sickness). But they couldn't do an x-ray or give me any painkillers because I was pregnant, so I just had to lie there with a drip, in non-stop AGONY waiting for the stone to pass!!!! 4 hours later and I was ok. On my pain scale I would have to say giving birth to B is no 1, kidney stones while pregnant is no 2, and giving birth to A is no 3.
But the point is, as timing would have it, my family and inlaws were all there. They looked after B, they wiped my forehead, rubbed my back, talked, and we all just became closer because of it. My FIL really changed his attitude towards me after this happened and I'm eternally grateful for that. He stopped his 九州男児ness (can I make that into a word??) and is a lot more considerate now. MIL also agrees with me there! So bad things turned into good things in this case.
But we shouldn't have been there, altogether, at that particular place or time. The fact my parents were visiting was uncanny. My MIL should have been at work but she took the day off to be able to see my relatives. We had planned to be in another city (about an hour away) long before this happened, but we got stuck in traffic on the way to the inlaws and had arrived a few hours late. We'd planned on just dropping in for a little while but ended up staying for a lot longer, and going to the park was a complete afterthought. So it was fate. Meant to happen. As much as I cringe when I think of the pain!!
Here's hoping nothing like that happens this time round.
Yep, you read that last sentence right!!
Still VERY early days, probably way too early to even be posting this, but as of last night it's official.
Baby number 3 is on it's way!
I believe in fate. And karma. Or whatever you might like to call it. I believe that things happen for a reason. Both good things and bad. That we're here to learn. That we're being tested. That you reap what you sow and all that. So where is this post going you might be asking?
Pregnancy.
Can't see the connection yet?
To be honest, even though we would love 4 kids, sometimes just the thought of having to go through pregnancy again is quite offputting. Although some people enjoy this time immensely, I'm afraid I can't say I'm one of them. They say children choose their parents before they are born, so if someone is willing to choose my husband and I then we are willing to give them a chance at life. To have someone become part of our family, someone to share our journey through life with, is enough to make me want to do it again.
But with both B and A the pregnancy started off with morning sickness which lasted all day, every day, for way too long. My weight went down as it does when you're throwing up every day, before finally increasing a few months down the track. So despite the fact B and A were both born 4 days late, my weight gain during pregnancy was 5.8kg for B and 6.2kg for A. They were both over 3240g born btw!
From the moment I conceived I had all the normal pregnancy complaints-no need for any explanations there. Morning sickness lasted for nearly 17 weeks with B and over 20 weeks with A. I was nauseous from morning to night, threw up every day (at least 3 or 4 times a day with A!), was exhausted, could not keep anything down until about 3 or 4 in the afternoon (including water or tea), gagged when brushing my teeth, became aenemic, and basically felt EXTREMELY under the weather. And that's just the first and second trimesters. Don't even get me started on the third trimester!!!!!
So anyway at 20 weeks with A I was finally starting to feel a bit better. Still lethargic, but better. Had a few niggly pains in my side but put it down to being pregnant, as you do. A few weeks later it was Golden Week and my parents, aunt, and uncle were over visiting so we'd taken them on a bit of a trip to see the inlaws and do some sightseeing. But because there were so many of us we'd walked, as opposed to driving, to a famous park about 5 minutes walk from the house and were having a nice old time when it suddenly hit.
Excrutiating pain from my back and around to my sides. I thought I was in labour. I was 24 weeks. I couldn't stand up, was losing consciousness, all the time thinking but if I'm in labour now the baby won't make it!!!!!
The park is actually the ruins of an old castle. There's a shrine at the top and S, my dad, aunty and uncle had gone with my MIL and FIL to the top while my mum, B and I were taking it slowly up the steps. Until I collapsed on the steps that is! My Mum was yelling (in English of course!) "Someone get an ambulance!!!" but we couldn't see anyone around and were starting to panic when a lady from a souvenir shop we hadn't even noticed heard us and thankfully called an ambulance for me.
So a few minutes later I was rushed to hospital and after numerous checks to make sure A was ok (which she was) they said I had kidney stones brought on by pregnancy (made worse because of the morning sickness). But they couldn't do an x-ray or give me any painkillers because I was pregnant, so I just had to lie there with a drip, in non-stop AGONY waiting for the stone to pass!!!! 4 hours later and I was ok. On my pain scale I would have to say giving birth to B is no 1, kidney stones while pregnant is no 2, and giving birth to A is no 3.
But the point is, as timing would have it, my family and inlaws were all there. They looked after B, they wiped my forehead, rubbed my back, talked, and we all just became closer because of it. My FIL really changed his attitude towards me after this happened and I'm eternally grateful for that. He stopped his 九州男児ness (can I make that into a word??) and is a lot more considerate now. MIL also agrees with me there! So bad things turned into good things in this case.
But we shouldn't have been there, altogether, at that particular place or time. The fact my parents were visiting was uncanny. My MIL should have been at work but she took the day off to be able to see my relatives. We had planned to be in another city (about an hour away) long before this happened, but we got stuck in traffic on the way to the inlaws and had arrived a few hours late. We'd planned on just dropping in for a little while but ended up staying for a lot longer, and going to the park was a complete afterthought. So it was fate. Meant to happen. As much as I cringe when I think of the pain!!
Here's hoping nothing like that happens this time round.
Yep, you read that last sentence right!!
Still VERY early days, probably way too early to even be posting this, but as of last night it's official.
Baby number 3 is on it's way!
2010年2月25日木曜日
Things I love Thursday
Things I am loving this week:
- Our tax refund being confirmed
- The kids room finally being sorted out
- Our anniversary and onsen day trip
- Passionfruit slice
- Warmer days
- Our new tv
- Watching the Olympics
What are you loving this week?
2010年2月24日水曜日
ピカピカ！
Thanks for all the suggestions on my last post.
As it turns out I ended up making crumbed chicken and potato bake last night but I will be keeping in mind all the other ideas for next time!
Today I had a visit from my MIL.
She arrived at about 11am and only just left actually!
So we had a busy day to say the least. And considering I didn't even know she was coming til late last night I think I did a pretty good job of getting the place into order, even if I must have looked like a madwoman early hours this morning!lol
Time for bed I think!
As it turns out I ended up making crumbed chicken and potato bake last night but I will be keeping in mind all the other ideas for next time!
Today I had a visit from my MIL.
She arrived at about 11am and only just left actually!
So we had a busy day to say the least. And considering I didn't even know she was coming til late last night I think I did a pretty good job of getting the place into order, even if I must have looked like a madwoman early hours this morning!lol
Time for bed I think!
2010年2月23日火曜日
Up for the challenge
This blogging every day can be quite challenging at times!
Today is Day 23, so only another week or so left to go.
I just looked over my challenge list and realised I had totally forgotten about the Western type meal once a month thing. Will have to start thinking about what to make... Any ideas? I don't have much of a repertoire when it comes to Western recipes. Potato bake, crumbed chicken in cheese and bacon sauce, pumpkin soup and lasagne (but with a Japanese recipe!lol) pretty much sums up any Western dishes I know how to make.
Main reason being I came to Japan when I was 19 and that's also when I started to learn how to cook. So I don't really know how to make anything other than Japanese food. And while my Mum is a good cook, she NEVER uses recipes so has no idea when I ask for measurements. And with cup sizes being different in Australia and all, it gets just a bit too confusing!lol
Would anyone like to share a Western recipe that they find is a hit with their family? One that doesn't need special ingredients and that is easy to make?
Today is Day 23, so only another week or so left to go.
I just looked over my challenge list and realised I had totally forgotten about the Western type meal once a month thing. Will have to start thinking about what to make... Any ideas? I don't have much of a repertoire when it comes to Western recipes. Potato bake, crumbed chicken in cheese and bacon sauce, pumpkin soup and lasagne (but with a Japanese recipe!lol) pretty much sums up any Western dishes I know how to make.
Main reason being I came to Japan when I was 19 and that's also when I started to learn how to cook. So I don't really know how to make anything other than Japanese food. And while my Mum is a good cook, she NEVER uses recipes so has no idea when I ask for measurements. And with cup sizes being different in Australia and all, it gets just a bit too confusing!lol
Would anyone like to share a Western recipe that they find is a hit with their family? One that doesn't need special ingredients and that is easy to make?
2010年2月22日月曜日
Anniversary
Wow, it's hard to believe but S and I have been married for 8 whole years now!
Just telling someone yesterday we are going into our 9年目 really makes me feel old, and like I should be a lot better at being a 主婦 than I am.
Anyway, those thoughts aside, we celebrated yesterday with a day trip to 嬉野温泉 (Ureshino Onsen) in Saga, and it was lovely. Lovely food, lovely bath, and of course lovely company!lol
It's actually our anniversary today, so I think that's a perfect excuse not to cook dinner. And it's also a great excuse to have some dessert!lol
Just telling someone yesterday we are going into our 9年目 really makes me feel old, and like I should be a lot better at being a 主婦 than I am.
Anyway, those thoughts aside, we celebrated yesterday with a day trip to 嬉野温泉 (Ureshino Onsen) in Saga, and it was lovely. Lovely food, lovely bath, and of course lovely company!lol
It's actually our anniversary today, so I think that's a perfect excuse not to cook dinner. And it's also a great excuse to have some dessert!lol
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